The beginning conversations on the site are usually the how-are-yous, where you from and all that jazz; so of course, the "what do you do question?" pops up. When searching for potential guys to get to know, I make a point to choose only guys with bachelors degrees or higher. I've met guys who are lawyers, managers, physicians, consultants, teachers and all that, but one of the guys who I have a good amount in common with is a bus dispatcher -___- He has a bachelors and masters degree in the IT field but couldn't grab a job in his field and has been doing his to keep the checks coming. A few thoughts cross my mind either (a) he never really graduated from college (although I fact checked [lol] this and found his alumni info) (b) times really are just that tough or (c) he isn't trying hard enough. I am starting to believe that (b) is the most probably answer, but I'm wondering why I'm having such a hard time dealing with his occupation.
Even though I went to private school full of many well off students, I didn't grow up that way. I have blue collar, high school educated parents who worked hard to provide for me and my sisters. I would never want any guy judging my mom because she doesn't have a fabulous job or a college degree. She's hardworking, nice, smart and probably can beat anyone I know (including me) in Jeopardy. She's loyal to her family and would do anything for us. All qualities that any person would want in a partner. Sooo....yeah, a job is important to help keep funds in the family and provide, but should it matter so much to me? Am I being a job snob? Is the bond between two people really all that matters?
I think it's a balance. A college degree shouldn't take the place of a nice personality, although it seems that if they don't have a college degree they should really be something special. However, I will refuse to be like that lawyer dating a dog walker I read about!
ReplyDeleteIm not surprised you did your research on his college background. lol. And I don't think you are being a "job snob" - It is only natural to want to be equally yolked however I wouldn't let be a deal breaker. You just gotta look at the potential and see if you can work with it. But be careful...b/c u don't want someone w/ 2 degrees pitching tents or better yet...hopelessly in love with Texas ;-)
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