Sometimes You Just Gotta Take the Plunge

Somewhere in between being in grad school and doing post-grad training, my dating life hit a slump. Not that I've ever been the honer of the best guys or hottest dates, but my current love life is at an absolute standstill. Unacceptable lol. Last year, I really could blame a lame dating life on being an East Coast black girl living in suburban Minnesota and working 12 hour days -__- . But now, I'm back in my comfort zone and living in a major city, so it's time to get the ball rolling.

Being new to town, I've hit the nightlife scene looking my best, exchanged smiles and pleasantries with the opposite sex in hallways at work, and even responded to "hey gorgeous" calls from streetworkers; but still no dating and no boo. So, earlier this week I decided to try online dating. Yeah, online dating at 25...this is what my love life has come to lol

Suprisingly, I've seen several good looking, well established guys on Match.com. But of course, with the good comes the bad. I must admit that I have been asked out on a date: to a haunted house. It seemed like an ok date except that I'm a major scaredy cat who hasn't seen a horror film since I Still Know What You Did Last Summer and the guy's job/home life seem a little sketch. Not that having an amazing job and a professional degree is a dealmaker/breaker, but I don't feel like he was honest; if he has an amazing job on Capitol Hill, why does he live in the burbs with his parents? Another guy also seems like a great catch, except the phone number he gave me is a landline. Now back in 2003, this would have been completely acceptable (and we would've chatted on AIM on the side lol)...but I'm wondering...is this his only phone line? I'm probably jumping too quickly to judgment because he told me he's a bus dispatcher (despite having a grad degree).

Overall, online dating isn't as easy as it seems. But I will definitely stick it out. The good part is that it's week one and I can say that I have gotten asked out on a date for the first time since June and I have a few decent guys who seem interested. This may be a rocky journey but it might end up being the start of something good :)