To Swirl or Not to Swirl

Last night my former Minnesotan boo called me up to say ask when I was gonna visit him in the Great North. We chatted for a bit about life updates...what's new on the East Coast, what's new in the Midwest, and it was nice to catch up with him. I can't say I have any overwhelmingly strong longings to ever see him again but talking with him had me thinking....am I gonna make swirling apart of my dating life this go around?

While I prefer the romantic company of a handsome African American guy, I do consider myself an equal opportunity lover. I had kissed a white guy or two before having a semi-long term friendship/boo love with my Minnesota guy. He was a definitely a cute guy with a great job at IBM. He liked the History Channel like me, he was a trained at MMA fighter gym for fun (and had a matching body!), and he helped me when I had car trouble.  But alot of things were way t0o opposite for my taste: like food, life experience, music interests, values. And we even had those weird race conversations that you'd never expect, like "Do black people get a tan?" lol

Overall, while I don't mind the swirl, I'm not sure if a non-black male can fully understand everything that is a a black woman....the struggle, the nuances, my hair, the way society views me v. what I am, my everything. I'd hate to limit my mind and dating circle to a limited pool but those aforementioned things aren't just things you can fill out on a questionnaire or common interests, it's common experiences, values, and points of view.